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The OC Witches & Pagan July Meetup

Wednesday July 8th at 7pm is the monthly dinner event for both the OC Pagan and the OC Witches Meetup groups. It’s a social gathering for people of like mind to gather within the local community and network. All who are Pagan friendly are welcome.

For more information:

Orange County Witches Meetup

Orange, CA
259 Witches

We are a social networking group established in 2002. We have a monthly for dinner event either on the 4th Thursday or the 2nd Wednesday of the month at 7pm, as well as additi…

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Orange County Pagan Meetup

Orange, CA
215 Pagans

We are a social networking group that was established in 2002. We have a monthly dinner event either on the 2nd Wednesday or the 4th Thursday at 7pm, as well as additional gat…

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Special Effing Snowflake

I’ve been running Meetup events for 7-13 different groups for nearly 13 years now. Over the years I’ve learned what does and what does not work for each group. At some point we realized that membership rules were necessary as it seemed some things that we assumed most people would know wasn’t always the case. Thus I created a list of rules. They are very simple, but ultimately necessary reminders to ensure the group works harmoniously.

Lately more members are joining using the Meetup app on their phone. This is convenient for members, however, the app lacks a lot of the information available to members using the desktop version, such as our membership rules, message board, photos, etc. As such I’ve had to message members wishing to join our groups and include the rules so they can be aware.

How is it I know they didn’t read the rules? Based on their response to the question regarding the rules. Within the rules is a very specific reponse requested. It started because people would lie, automatically respond with a yes, and when they break a rule they’d claim they didn’t know. It became a big hassle that required more management on my part. The hope was to prevent drama after the fact. If they give the correct response I’ll know they read all the rules.

Unfortunately… there are the occasional individuals who insist on creating the drama before they even join the group. Below is the profile submitted by the most recent special snowflake. I changed their name and a few identifying things because it’s unnecessary to out this individual. For me it’s more about the interaction and how they didn’t seem to recognize I wasn’t really asking much at all of them, but they made it to be about something it wasn’t and then into a bigger issue than it need be, especially on their final reply in our IMs back and forth.

I look at things this way… if a person feels they’re far too special to follow very basic rules and directions they likely have no respect for the rules or our group and therefore it may be best for all involved if they don’t join our group.

I’m told I have a lot of patience with difficult people, some days it really takes all that I have.


Special Snowflake C.Ht

Location: Los Angeles, CA
Hometown: Los Angeles

What, within our group, do you hope to find?

Let’s see how well you can follow directions. Have you read the Rules for Membership listed on the About Us section and agree to abide by them?
Yes (It was later changed to – Yes I AGREE! after my initial IM)

What, if any, tradition of witchcraft do you practice?
Goddess, Meditation, Kabbalah.

How did you hear about us?


MistressPrime 6:18 PM

Sent from Orange County Witches Meetup

Hello Special Snowflake C.Ht,

Thank you for your interest in the OC Witches Meetup. It appears that you have not yet read our membership rules. I have provided them for you here. Please take a moment to thoroughly read them and change your profile answer regarding the rules accordingly. Once you’ve made that change to your membership request message me here to let me know and then I can add you to our group membership.

Thank you,
OC Witches Meetup Organizer


  1. All members are required to RSVP with a Yes or No to each of the monthly Meetup events. These are the events held on the 2nd Wednesday or the 4th Thursday of the month at 7pm. Locations can vary.
  2. Participation is required. All members are required to attend a monthly Meetup at least once every 6 months.
  3. If a member is unable to comply to monthly Meetup attendance requirements due to school or work, they will need to contact MistressPrime privately to discuss their options.
  4. Members will ensure that their RSVP is current by checking the event listing. If you are currently a No, but are able to attend, please change your RSVP to Yes. If you are a Yes, but are not able to attend, please change your RSVP to a No. These changes should occur by 1 hour before the Meetup if possible.
  5. If you are listed as a YES, but discover you are unable to attend at the last minute (less than 1 hour prior to Meetup), please drop me a private email (up to 24 hours after the Meetup) to ensure you are not listed as a No Show. Members are allowed a maximum of 3 No Shows before being removed for attendance issues. However, if you are listed as a No or have not RSVPed at all and show up, we may have you sing a song, or do a dance, or a card trick, or quiz you on your geek knowledge, or have a staring contest or… I think you get the point. Please remember to RSVP.
  6. All suggestions for events should be sent to MistressPrime directly.
  7. All members must read the Message Board Rules post prior to making any message board posts.
  8. Members are prohibited from posting personal contact info in their profiles, message board, or in RSVP/comments for event listings. For direct contact with specific members please use the email option provided by Meetup.com.
  9. For the safety of all, members will not post or promote the location of the Meetup event on any comment, RSVP comment, or any other website.
  10. All members will be respectful to this group, the members, and it’s rules of conduct.
  11. If indeed you have read all these rules and agree to abide by them, please reply with a “Yes I have. Yes I will.” with the current date (eg: Yes I have. Yes I will. May 13, 2012) on your profile where it asks if you have read and agree to abide by our rules.

Should a member fail to meet these requirements they will be removed from this group.


Special Snowflake C.Ht 6:38 PM

I thought I did, what did I do wrong, what is it in my profile that is like an advertising?

MistressPrime 6:49 PM

Special Snowflake, please thoroughly read the rules provided. Once you have I’m certain you’ll recognize that writing Yes I AGREE isn’t what was requested. I assure you, your profile does not look like advertising.

Special Snowflake C.Ht 7:30 PM

If your talking about my title, I can’t remove it, since this is how I signed up to meetup and I Owen 3 meetup which in no way is a competition or do I want to go to OC after your clients. I am in Los Angeles and if the C.HT is the killer, I wish you all the best. I will not let someone’s fear to force me stop presenting who I am. Hopefully it’s not the Cht and if it’s something else, I don’t get it!

MistressPrime 7:54 PM

Again… no. I don’t care about your title or how many Meetups you organize. Why are you making this about things that it is not? Please thoroughly read the rules and follow the listed directions.

Special Snowflake C.Ht 7:55 PM

I did several time and like I said I don’t get it, and if you can’t be specific, I can’t help it but say, thank you!


Special Snowflake C.Ht 1:19 AM

Because I am not clear on what you are asking, and I did, so I guess i don’t understand what you have posted. Sorry my English is not my first language and I don’t underhand your request. Any ways thanks any ways.

MistressPrime 1:21 AM

Special Snowflake, read #11.

Special Snowflake C.Ht 1:28 AM

OK I get it, you want me to be specific with Yes I have. Yes I will and the date, wow is this really necessarily? Isn’t Yes I Agree i the same as Yes I have or Yes I will? You really need to learn about the learning styles, because kinesthetic learning people like me will have hard time excepting these commends. MistressPrime kinesthetic learners are not visual or auditory, or gustatory, they need to feel the emotion behind your command, and I agree is how I feel comfortable, and I am sorry, I cannot say the words that mean nothing to my brain, because my brain rejects Yes I will and Yes I have! Too bad, but if this is what it is, I don’t belong in your group. Thank you for trying to help. Best of the luck!

I suspect the fact that Special Snowflake kept bringing the “advertising” issue up was likely because they were planning to use my Meetup group to hunt for new clients. If so, they were being deceptive with their motives for joining our group and this is part of the reason why members need to be approved prior to joining.

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This month’s Orange County (CA) Pagan & Witches Meetup Monthly Dinner event is happening this Thursday night. If you’re interested in meeting members of the local community, people of like mind, these monthly dinner’s are a great option.



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Pagan and Witches Meetup: A Change

10 Years!

We celebrated our 10 year anniversary last month. No small feat, I might say. There aren’t very many groups in our topic that can boast the same thing.

After 10 years of hosting our monthly gatherings, creating and coordinating an array of other events to fill our calendar, and though not doing this entirely alone, I have operated primarily on my own, I’ve decided that it’s time for a change.

Here’s the deal, I have two separate groups that operate as one unit: The Orange County Pagan Meetup and The Orange County Witches Meetup. The only real difference between the groups are the name, website, and the dates for their monthly event. Many of the members are the same in each group, and any of the additional events posted go onto BOTH groups. It means I do double duty to put the same info on both sites, coordinate the RSVPs between both groups to make sure the whole number of members attending is represented on both sites, and send out emails with needed details for the one event on both groups. So, if you’re a member of both groups you get the same email, twice.

I’ve doing things this way for just about 10 years (when they changed access on the website). When they did change access and officially created the “organizer” position we had the option to merge the membership into one group. At the time the members liked having two different days, two weeks apart, on which to meet.

But as my wedding fast approaches (OMG! IT’S ALMOST HERE!!) I’m learning that I can only do so much if I am needed elsewhere. Once we get married we’re also considering having children. Having a child will greatly impact my available time to running the Meetups. Heck, just putting this wedding together has made an impact. I’ve had to decline attending a variety of events with some of my other Meetup groups (I run 7 Meetups and assist on a few others) because we’ve had our weekends filled with wedding related events.

I want our community to continue to grow and flourish. With that in mind I’m considering changing up the way the groups run.

A Change

One thing I wanted to create were committees. I thought that by creating a committee for Social Events such as Renaissance Faires, museum trips, picnics, etc.; would be great. I try to keep the group social so that’s important.  I’d also like to add a committee for each topic: Book Club, Music, and Rituals. I’ve already got a handful of volunteers to help!

The Dilemma

I need to figure out what to do with the two groups. How do merge them and yet keep the reason for two groups happy?

Not everyone wants to identify as Pagan if they’re an out and proud witch. And frankly, not every pagan is a witch. Another reason for keeping the groups separated was to allow people to identify as they pleased. Also, the membership is higher with the Witches Meetup, but the active participation is higher with the Pagan Meetup.

A mention at renaming the group to be all inclusive was raised. It sounds good, but then what would be a good name that is all inclusive? If I were to call it the Pagan & Witches Meetup, a seemingly logical choice, then the druids or Heathens might wonder why they’re not being named while non-witch pagans might disapprove of having their path associated with witches or witchcraft. However if we call it the Esoteric Religions Meetup (a suggestion by one of the members) then some might not even know who the heck we are.


I know I can’t please everyone. I do try to accommodate as many of the members as possible.

I think until I can figure out what to do regarding merging the two groups I will continue with two groups, but add the new committees to help add events and perhaps get even more members active. In the meantime I don’t need to make any decisions right now and certainly not until after the wedding.


New Kids On The Block – “Remix”

I was never a NKOTB fan, I did like the Backstreet Boys, though. Anyway, someone posted this song on Facebook yesterday and I really like it!

Cooking Exercises

This past weekend was a whirlwind of activity that left me in need of a few days rest. My oven, food processor, and hand mixer also got a serious work out.

Chris and I had two events, one for each day. Both events required food items. Since we began dating my cooking skills have been getting used pretty frequently and I admit, I love it.

10 Year Anniversary Party

Saturday I hosted the 10 year anniversary party for my OC Pagan and Witches Meetup groups. The group, when asked, requested that we host a potluck house party. The idea was to have privacy to just socialize. A nice change since a majority of our Meetups are in public spaces.

Once I posted the event on the Meetup pages I created a Google doc for everyone to list their potluck item. This allowed everyone to see what was being brought and hopefully keep our food options well rounded.

I’ve learned that people are more apt to participate once someone else has initiated the activity. So after creating the Google doc I populated the categories with items that Chris and I planned to bring. It was also an example of how to fill in the spreadsheet, because oddly, people make up their own concept and run with it despite instructions that state otherwise.

My assistant organizer, William, had informed me at the Witches Meetup on the Thursday prior that he had no time to shop or cook on Saturday since he’d be at WonderCon and asked if it would it be ok to give me money in lieu of food to help support the supplies needed for the event. I agreed and decided I would also make one more dish on his behalf.

Mind you, it was just a few days before the event, 29 people had RSVPed yes, but only 5 had posted any food items to the list. I was in slight panic mode. One thing I can not abide is a party short of food.

So, my portion of the menu included a large chicken and rotini pasta casserole, potato salad (about 5lbs worth), and a broccoli and cheese frittata. For the record, I’d never made the casserole nor the specific frittata before.

While I was cooking all of these items, somehow I assumed I would have time between, when things were in the oven, to take care of other details, such as creating the favors, finish stuffing plastic eggs for the egg hunt, and making/wrapping prizes for the games we planned to play.


Yeah, that didn’t quite happen the way I had hoped. I ended up being an hour late to my own party, but I sent Chris ahead and had others already there helping put things together so it was ready when people arrived.

The party overall turned out rather well. Members from both groups attended. There were some folks who were brand new to the groups, while others we hadn’t seen in a while made an appearance. They were quite enthusiastic about the two games we played and there was an ample amount of good food for all. I was also honored with a trophy in recognition of my decade of service to the OC Pagan and Witches Meetups. That was a real nice surprise!

I received many compliments on my potato salad and frittata. While the casserole was enjoyed, I think it needed more spice and a little less ricotta cheese.

We got home about 1:30 am from the party and opted to clean up what mess was still in the kitchen in the morning. My thoughts were that I still had food to cook, so we could get sleep now and deal with it later.

Easter Dinner with the in-laws

Sunday morning… it’s Easter for the Christian folk.

My future in-laws invited us over for dinner. I offered to cook  two items to add to the feast, it was another collaborated effort. My portion: creamed corn and coconut mochi. Again, I offered up an item I hadn’t made previously, the creamed corn.

As it turned out I got plenty of compliments on both, but between the two the creamed corn was the biggest hit.

As I come out of the kitchen from helping  set up some of the food, Chris’ dad (who totally cracks me up) genuinely asked if we’d spent the morning at church.

o_O WTF?!

I reminded him that pagans don’t go to “church”.  He knows I’m a witch, I thought he knew his sons were atheists. I’m not really sure of much after that. Honestly, I thought it was quite funny.

We actually had a very delightful afternoon with his family and their friends. Once I realized that those present all went to church together and was then questioned about how Chris and I met I chose to deferred to Chris to answer and left the room immediately. To be fair I was stopped while I was walking to the restroom. I wanted Chris to decide on how such discussions would be handled. I had already answered other wedding related questions, such as what dress I would be wearing, if I was excited – a question I find a bit silly. I mean, would you expect that my answer be that I was simply bored by the whole nonsense? Of course I’m excited! I get to marry one of the most awesome men I’ve ever met!

What I didn’t realize is that she knew about the drama I’d had with some of my bridesmaids and perhaps asked because the drama had been so draining and disappointing for me. More on that in another post.

Later on when I was asked about more details regarding who was officiating our legal wedding next month I didn’t bother to hold anything back. I was straightforward in explaining that the couple who would be marrying us were the leaders of my coven. She stopped asking any questions of me all together after that. *shrug*

We got home around 8pm. I was wiped out and a lot more sore than I expected to be. But dishes needed to be washed, as did laundry, and a litter box needed to be cleaned. Being the sweetheart that he is, Chris took care of the majority of chores.

It was a very busy and full weekend, but it was grand and full of love. 🙂

Originally I planned to post all the recipes here, but I think I’ll make a second post with them all.